TIPS & REFLECTIONS

A series of short articles on everything, from practical ways of getting things done, to how to handle your feelings and find peace in a hectic world.

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143. Refresh Your Memories

Bad memories can be extraordinarily burdensome, and in more ways than you might think. If you think some of your memories might benefit from a press of the refresh button, read on! Don't forget, if you or your friends would like to view past tips, you can do so by clicking here. And if you'd like to forward these tips to a colleague or friend just click below. My client Nicky went on holiday once, to Sardinia. She went with her boyfriend and she decided that what she wanted to do was find a hotel where they could chill by the pool some days, and a car so that they could pootle around the island on others. Her boyfriend didn't drive so she knew it would be her who would be doing the poot

142. Life and the Dentists Chair

How happy and relaxed we feel in our lives has a lot to do with trust. This week's tip explores how much we trust the people and things in our lives, and how that affects us. Don't forget, if you or your friends would like to view past tips, you can do so by clicking here. And if you'd like to forward these tips to a colleague or friend just click below. A number of years ago I found a great dentist. I'd had various experiences with dentists, not all of them good, but this one I trusted completely. I trusted him to give me a good opinion, to do the right thing and to do it well. I also trusted him, which was important, never to do anything that was unnecessary. This was not only importa

141. Is it Love or Attachment

If there is anything trickier in life than relationships I have yet to find it. This reflection, on attachment, may be the first of a few! Don't forget, if you or your friends would like to view past tips, you can do so by clicking here. And if you'd like to forward these tips to a colleague or friend just click below. There are few things that humans yearn for more than to be in a relationship with a special other. We think that it is love we long for, intimacy, companionship, but there is a driver more compelling than any of these and that is our need for safety. We may not be conscious of this, but research tells us that it is safety that is paramount, and to feel safe our psyche tel

140. The Joy of Hatred

With the election results in Austria, where a huge surge in support for an extreme right-winger was matched only by a huge surge in support for an ex-green party, independent candidate, a similar polarization in both the UK and US can no longer be put down to coincidence. There is something afoot in world politics, a movement from the large centre ground to the periphery - some heading off to the right, some to the left. It is as though there are two countries in the UK these days, with Nigel Farage at the helm of UKIP, and Jeremy Corbyn at the helm of the Labour party. And two countries in the US, with Donald Trump at the far right, and Bernie Sanders at the far left. Something similar is