TIPS & REFLECTIONS

A series of short articles on everything, from practical ways of getting things done, to how to handle your feelings and find peace in a hectic world.

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134. What Are Your Rules For Others?

This week's tip is about something that takes up an awful lot of our time, time you may like to recapture.... I am lucky enough to be in the Algarve at the moment, and this morning I went for a walk, just inland from the coast, through the Ria Formosa nature reserve. It was a perfect morning, not a cloud in the sky, and there was a gentle breeze blowing in from the sea. I set off along a sandy path, a deep blue lagoon on the seaward side and pine covered hills stretching up on the other. Birds swooped and dipped their wings into the water and the breeze cuffed the surface into millions of tiny ripples. Heading along the path, my attention was suddenly drawn by a movement on the other side

133. The Question Why

It's so interesting to look at words and how the same word can have such different meanings. I looked at the word 'want' a few months back, and found that it meant both 'desire' and 'deficiency', as in 'I want a new job', and 'I want knowledge.' The words have the same root of meaning, but they manifest quite differently. It's similar with 'why'. 'Science is wonderfully equipped to answer the question 'How?', but it gets terribly confused when you ask the question 'Why?' Erwin Chargaff, Austrian Scientist One of the most important skills you learn when training to be a coach or therapist is how to ask the right questions. They should be open, said our trainer, H

132. God and Camels

If you had a Christian education you may remember the bit in the bible when Jesus says, 'Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and unto God the things that are God's.' What he didn't clarify was where exactly that line should be drawn. In those days, when religion was a significant part of most people's lives, the line was probably drawn in a very different place compared to today, when technology and science have largely displaced religion. But in doing so it has maybe duped us into thinking we control rather more than we actually do. And that may not be in our best interests. At the end of a long day at market, a man was setting off for home. He'd had a good day. He had so