TIPS & REFLECTIONS

A series of short articles on everything, from practical ways of getting things done, to how to handle your feelings and find peace in a hectic world.

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68. Do You Have a Secret Bad Habit?

In her excellent book, 'Why do i keep doing this ?', Judith Pearson lists the characteristics of addiction, among which are - creates predictable, reliable sensations that are pleasant, for the moment, and - exacerbates the feelings and problems it is supposed to remedy While the word 'addiction' tends to conjure up pictures of alcoholics and drug users, most of us have a habit or two that we have less control over than we would like to think. This week's tip explores. In the second year of medical school we did a course in behavioural sciences and I recall a particular seminar when two psychologists presented our group of students with a list of behaviours. On that li

67. Regret - and How to Avoid it

I've always thought regret should be one of the deadly sins. It is so pointless, so damaging, and so difficult to escape once it has taken hold. Bronnie Ware talks of this in her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, and illustrates through the stories of people she has cared for during their last months, weeks or days, the five most common regrets. If you have advance warning of what your own regrets might be, she reasons, then you might be able to avoid them. The regrets that I have most often heard people talk about are that they married the wrong person - or stayed with them too long; they went for the wrong career or missed career opportunities when they were presented to them; th

66. Finding Purpose in What You Do

Much of the time we're on automatic pilot. We don't think about what we're doing, let alone why we're doing it. This week's tip is about raising our consciousness in a particular way - to ask why it is that we are doing something. If we could all bring this one simple question to everything we did, I believe it would enrich our lives beyond measure. See if you agree.... If you ever go on a course in personal, or professional, or organisational development there is more than a fighting chance that at some point you'll be tasked with discovering your 'Purpose'. The alarming assumption is that you have such a thing, and if you haven't (even after considerable soul-searching), feelings of ina